It is human nature to become too attached to things or people. And it can be very difficult to find out how to let go from these attachments even if we know that they are not good for us. Buddha's great quote "The root of all suffering is attachment" and that pretty much sums it up.
Some of us become attached to unhealthy habits or relationships because we are trying to fill a void, an emptiness inside that perhaps comes from a lack of self love or acceptance so we look for things outside to grasp onto and distract us from what's really going on inside.
The first step to letting go is to become aware of these patterns in your life, to take a good hard look at the things and people you are attached to. Sometimes we can get so caught up in the momentum of life and not realise we are going around in circles. We wonder why it is that we feel so exhausted or tired or angry, emotional, lack of energy, sick or think life keeps throwing snow balls at us.
The truth is what you give out you get right back! Give good energy, receive good energy. Put good things into your body, receive good health. Give respect, receive respect and so on. If we are constantly caught up in negativity and unhealthy habits then yes the universe will snowball us. You create your own reality and you have the power to change anything at anytime whether you believe it or not is a different story, and I'll give you a little secret... you have the power to change that thought pattern too!
Being attached to things whether this be material/people/drama or unhealthy habits can come from our conditioning as a child, limiting beliefs, programming from the TV, people we choose to be around and our life experiences.
The next step is to face or fears and bring our awareness inward. Look deep inside yourself to see if you can find where these limitations are underlying. Perhaps seek guidance from a teacher.
Once we realise these negative patterns and decide to make a change sometimes we can experience temptation and craving to go back to that familiar pattern. When this happens, take a comfortable seat relaxing your body and mind. Bring your attention to your breath. Notice that sense of craving like a contraction in your mind that you can relax and release with every out breath.
Step 3, make a list of things that make you happy when you do them. Include people that brighten up your day, that when they leave you, you feel a sense of upliftment.
Start to become aware of what you put into your body, do you feel good or bad after eating/drinking this and how are the after effects.
Also make a list of things that you do, what you put into your body and people you are around that don't make you feel so great. Anything that is not serving you in a positive way needs to be on this list.
Step 4, make a decision to only do the things and that make you feel great and surround yourself with people that positively uplift you.
Burn the list of things that have a negative influence in your life and choose to LET THEM GO.
This process can be challenging but just like anything it takes practice, patience and persistence. Always know that you can seek guidance if you are feeling overwhelmed with your new decisions and life choices.
SELF LOVE - Now you know that good experiences and healthy habits only bring positive experiences in your life. Now it's time for self-love to ensure you do not need to look outside yourself to fill anything!
Listen to your body, practice mindfulness, meditate and clear your mind from any negative thought patterns trying to weasel their way back in.
Yoga is a great way to start to practice mindfulness and self care, bring you back into your body and let go of the thinking mind. Yoga is unity and acceptance. This can help you re-connect with your true self. You will soon realise that self love is the best love of any kind.
"True Yoga is not about the shape if your body but the shape of your life. Yoga is not to be performed, yoga is to be lived. Yoga doesn't care about what you have been. Yoga cares about who you are becoming. Yoga is designed for a vast and profound purpose and for it to be truly called Yoga, it's essence must be embodied." Aadil Palkhivala
Spend time in nature, take walks and stop to smell the flowers!
Take time for you, nurture your mind, body and soul.
Try new things and find out what makes you sparkle with joy.
Namaste, have a wonderful day!